Today my wife and I are celebrating our 19th wedding anniversary. There is no sweeter day of the year for me. We met and married quickly back when we were both very young. Some said it would never last due to our age or inexperience. Others said we’d make it five years, or maybe seven. Most people might have fit into those limitations, but we did not.
I won’t normally be so personal on this blog, but to the woman who has given me all that I could have ever hoped for and more in a wife, I thank you, and I love you.
The Dark Knight Rises is a great film and an even better ending to perhaps the greatest movie trilogy of all time. The most significant contribution of the film, however, might well be the line quoted (more or less) in the title. In the picture, Bruce Wayne is imprisoned in a pit with several other inmates. There are handholds ringing the walls of the pit, with death-defying leaps required in order to go from one platform to another on your way up. Since only one inmate has ever escaped without falling, the men who attempt the climb tie a rope around their waists to catch them if and when they fall. Bruce tries and falls twice. A prisoner in the cell next to him explains that his problem is fear… or rather, his lack of it. Since he climbs only when safely tethered, there is little chance of meeting death. The wise old inmate suggest to him that if he removes the safety net provided by the rope, his natural survival instincts will be called upon, his body will rise to the fight, and his odds of success will increase. Bruce takes him up on the idea, knowing that failure means certain death, and succeeds.
We all face difficulties in our lives. Most of us reach out for every tether we can get our hands on and understandably so. The more supported we feel, the stronger we believe we become. The truth may be the exact opposite. The more others step in to buoy us up, the weaker we become. The more weight we take upon our own shoulders, the stronger we become. We never really know what we are capable of until that darkest hour, when all support is taken from us, and we are forced to stand on our own. John Steakley wrote “You are, What you do, When it counts.” I believe he was right.
“To making it count,” is not just a Cameron-esque Titanic quote. It should be our daily purpose.
Local artist Amanda Bills recently completed the cover art for my upcoming novel “Closure.” I couldn’t be more pleased with the results and thought I’d share it here. The ebook will be out within a week, and the printed copies should arrive in about four weeks.